Advice

Dedicate a day to your loved one.

Once a month , designate one day as that person's day, from Sunrise to Sunset. Example:

AM. Cook breakfast in bed, pick out her clothes to wear, take a shower together...NO SEX! After she comes out of the shower dry her off, put lotion on her body.

AFTERNOON. Plan an event. Whatever she likes to do. Shop, go to the museum, take a movie in, etc...

EVENING. Either cook a nice candlelight dinner or if you cant cook, take her to a nice place to eat. When you get home fill the bath tub full of bubbles and warm water, give her a bath. Dry her off, have her robe/gown waiting for her. Then sit on the couch, listen to some soft music, have her lay under you and just hold each other.


The importance of PATIENCE

You know how it is when you meet a new man. The two of you exchange numbers, and he says "I'll call you." You go home, call all of your friends to tell them about him, and sit on top of the phone waiting for his call.

Within a few hours, guess what? He calls. The two of you spend some time talking about getting to know each other. "He's nice," you think to yourself. The conversation comes to an end, and he says "I'll call you later."

Later when? Later tonight? Later this week? Later this month? Later this lifetime? You go on about your business, casually glancing at the phone from time to time. As you get ready for bed, you realize that he's not going to call later tonight. Damn.

As a new day dawns, you get ready for work, but not before perusing the caller I.D. box. He might have called while you were in a deep sleep. He didn't, but hey, it didn't hurt to check. Fast forward two days and you're a pathetic, psychotic, wreck. "The conversation went well, didn't it? Well, if it did, why in the hell hasn't he called yet?!" Calm down, girl. While you're all worried whether he's going to call or not, the man is home watching the game. He has every intention of calling you, he just hasn't gotten around to it yet.

You pace the floor, pondering if you should call him. Afterall, he did give you his number as well. You pick up the phone, dial a few digits, then hang up. You call your best friend instead. After talking a hole in her head, you hang up and start watching the Weakest Link. You cut your eye at the phone every minute or so, but who's counting?

It's time for a commercial break, and you trudge to the kitchen to get a little snackie-snack. While your head is buried deep inside the fridge, you hear the phone ringing. As you run down the hall, leap over the couch, slide into the table, and glare at the caller ID ... it's him.

PATIENCE. It really is a virtue. Enjoy your conversation.

Copyright, 2001 by Kimberly Williams


Why Online Dating Isn't As Scary As Most People Think

The popularity of the Internet has grown more than 20x over the last decade, with new people coming online for the first time every day. Yet, there are still people that are skeptical when they hear the words "Online Dating." Why is it so hard to fathom that a sincere, caring, and emotional relationship can blossom over the Internet. The popularity of the Internet has grown more than 20x over the last decade, with new people coming online for the first time every day. Yet, there are still people that are skeptical when they hear the words "Online Dating." Why is it so hard to fathom that a sincere, caring, and emotional relationship can blossom over the Internet.

The skeptic has trouble believing this because it is a new phenomenon, and worries about getting to "know" a person. They are afraid that only later they would find out that they have been communicating with a convicted felon named Bubba. However, for the most part "meeting" someone online can be very satisfying.

There are many places to meet people online -- chat rooms, message boards, newsgroups, and even dating & matchmaking services. With many topics to choose from, it is easy to find a place where the participants will have similar interests. This is one of the biggest hurdles to overcome when meeting someone -- either online, or in the "real" world. There are many places to meet people online -- chat rooms, message boards, newsgroups, and even dating & matchmaking services. With many topics to choose from, it is easy to find a place where the participants will have similar interests. This is one of the biggest hurdles to overcome when meeting someone -- either online, or in the "real" world.

After a while of communicating, you may begin to really look forward to hearing from this person.

Online it is a different story. Both you and the person you are communicating with know that there is a shared common interest. Many times these people find that they share many of the same interests and beliefs. Soon they begin communicating more and more by e-mail and Instant Messaging.

After a while of communicating, you may begin to really look forward to hearing from them. Depending on how far along the relationship has progressed, you might even feel gitty and this overwhelming sense of joy upon receiving an e-mail from your new online "special someone."

This could even lead to sending and receiving multiple-page e-mails daily, along with many shorter e-mails simply telling your online sweetheart hello.

One main advantage of getting to know someone online is that appearance is not the first thing that is noticed. You really get to know this person without either of you dressing to impress. You can be yourself, and there isn't the worry of coming up with lies to impress this person.

The dating world is a gamble, sort of like going to a casino. You could go to one table and bet all your money, hoping against odds that you hit the jackpot. This is similar to the person who will not consider online dating because it is too risky. Is it not more risky to place everything in one spot, rather than placing a little bit all over the place. This is what happens with online dating. You expose yourself to more people than those in your immediate community.